I’ve been with my fiancé for a little over 2.5 years now. We’ve lived an hour apart for our entire relationship except for the past month or so, I’m in the middle of moving in.
We’d still see each other every weekend, sometimes more.
And the interactive nature of online chatting/sex adds a level of uncertainty and unpredictability that can be exhilarating for people who crave such stimulation (see why people cheat).
Moreover, most people dismiss their online activities as NOT being real—it is like a sexual fantasy, it doesn’t have much consequence—because one can walk away from it or turn it off—unlike a traditional affair where there has been physical contact and a person who actually exists in one’s social network.
In these types of situations, it is common for people to offer quick solutions, but easy solutions typically don’t work long term (see once a cheater).
4 months before he asked me to marry him he wrote and I quote "awe you left i was gonna say hit me up on yahoo sometime and i’ll show you whatever you like same sn as aff *** take care.... and his ideal match is a woman that’s not afraid to say exactly what she wants. I don’t how often he’s does things-chats, gets on the phone, I don’t even know if he does it anymore... I’m not about to purchase something to hook up to the computer to follow what he does...I told him I felt bad that he was looking at these women-but I felt even worse because I was the one who looked it up in his documents on his computer-I felt I invaded his privacy-I didn’t want to be one of those crazy girlfriends/fiancés.