Another way to look at the conformity issue: Merton's Anomie Theory of Deviance which suggests that society expects everyone to be ambitious and hold the same life goals (success, wealth, possessions.).
Society also provides "legitimate" means for the realization of goals to some folks. Children who have positive relationship with their parents tend to also have positive relationships with their peers.
: Some studies suggest that there is a correlation between peer relations and social cognitive skills, much like the association between social intelligence and successful relationships in the adult world.
Socially intelligent adolescents are: - The use of a combination of techniques rather than a single approach to improve an adolescent's social skills (which also works for adults).
The problem for the adolescent is to find a way to legitimately get sexual needs met and not violate social ideals in the process. The duration of romantic relationships in early adolescence is telling of the depth of emotion attached to the exercise.
Falling in love seems to be the one thing we can do to lessen the negative connotations of being sexually active. Precursor to Love and Romance Dating Rituals - What do parents teach us about dating? Such relationships tend to last a matter of weeks or months, often ending at convenient times of the school year.
Teens feel a need to understand what it takes to get along, make friends and be considered and included.
Children who are frequently nominated both as a best friend and as being disliked.High school boys had more friendly or uninvolved relations.