But what if way back in school, they had learned the signs of what to watch out for, signs that could lead to serious problems and even violence later.
What if they had learned about all-or-nothing thinking patterns in themselves or others and about personality traits such as possessiveness and jealousy that can do so much harm?
Schools need to teach about thought patterns that are unhealthy and about how extremist notions and behaviors can be controlled through self-awareness and training to catch the unhealthy self-talk.
Many health education programs today are teaching about feelings and how the feelings can be controlled.
Kupper, "Partner Violence among Adolescents in Opposite-Sex Romantic Relationships: Findings from the National Longitudinal Study of Adolescent Health," American Journal of Public Health 91, no. To first learn what the middle school dating norms are, they set up boys’ and girls’ focus groups.The common form of female-to-male violence discussed by the teens was slapping. Warning Signs of Dating Violence For the target: 1.
Adolescent dating abuse perpetration: A review of findings, methodological limitations, and suggestions for future research. Waldman (Eds.), The Cambridge Handbook of Violent Behavior and Aggression, Cambridge University Press, NY: NY. Girls slapped boys as punishment when the boy was “out of line” or in self-defense. Does he get out of patience quickly with children or is he verbally abusive toward them? If you have answered yes to two or more of these items, you should talk to a mature person before pursuing this relationship further.