Everyone brings up the case of the long-term, happy relationship, but that's a rarity.What you are really trying to do is smoke out the professor who every semester picks up a student to have a relationship with -- the habitual offender," she said.Most college administrators suggested that if there is real mutual attraction and affection between a faculty member and a student, it can wait until the status of one member of the relationship changes."Even if quite genuine love developed between two people that was not intended by either to take advantage of the other, I would be most comfortable with its not being acted out until either the student graduated or the faculty member was no longer the employee of the college," Dr. Margaret Keady Goldberg, of Bronxville, married her former English professor at Marymount College, but said she did not start dating her future husband until two years after she graduated. Goldberg, said that love-stricken students were an occupational hazard for her husband, who died several years ago."He'd receive all these calls from students who were having a crush on him," said Ms. "He was always very honorable and said, 'Thank you very much, but I don't have relationships with students.' Not all professors were that honorable.Certainly these situations presented themselves, and sometimes the professor had the maturity and morals to handle it, and sometimes he didn't," she said.But many administrators refer to faculty-student dating as "a gray area," where individual maturity levels, professor's marital status and questions of direct supervision play a role.Professional Conduct A relationship between a student and a young faculty member or teaching assistant who is finishing his or her master's degree, is single and close in age to that student, may present a different scenario from that between a student and an older, married faculty member, said Terrell V.
"Just as there is a transference of emotion to the therapist, there is also a transference of emotion to the professor.
A scenario that has been raising concern on college campuses might go something like this: He is a middle-aged English professor, an expert on Henry James, who appears worldly and sophisticated in his tweed jacket while lecturing to his class. The appropriateness of faculty-student dating is being discussed on campuses throughout Westchester, echoing a nationwide debate about whether such relationships should be tolerated, regulated or banned altogether.