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It’s easy to be attracted to nonmonogamy’s sexier side, but it actually requires incredibly high levels of trust, communication, openness, and intimacy with your primary partner — meaning that just like monogamy, open relationships can be pretty stressful, and they’re certainly not for everyone.In other words, nonmonogamy is by no means a ticket out of relationship problems, and it might actually be a source of them.Archives of Sexual Behavior, 2011 Aug;40(4):741-53Intimacy and marital satisfaction in spouses. Department of Psychology, University of Stellenbosch, South Africa.Journal of Sex and Marital Therapy, 2001 May-Jun;27(3):247-57 Eric Anderson suggests open relationships allow partners to meet their respective needs without demanding more than one partner can give.There’s also a cultural component: Fidelity stats vary widely among cultures, and evidence suggests countries with more permissive attitudes toward sex also have longer-lasting marriages.In Nordic countries, many married couples openly discuss “parallel relationships” — ranging from drawn-out affairs to holiday flings — with their partners, yet marriage remains a respected institution.Sexually Transmitted Infections, 2010 Dec;86 Suppl 3:iii29-36.

While I was fine when Bryce made out with a mutual friend, he couldn’t stomach the thought of me doing the same.Then again, sex advice columnist Dan Savage says nonmonogamy might just come down to plain old boredom.


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    Unfortunately rumor has it that the 10 year age gap just wasn't working so Jake called it off."The Last Time" with lyrics "Put my name at the top of your list" is said to be about this highs-and-lows relationship.

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